6 Things To Do With The Person You Love When You’re Bored
Break that routine STAT.
In all aspects of life, men and woman must consciously choose between security and predictability on one hand, and challenge and adventure on the other. And perhaps no where is this more evident than in the areas of dating, love and romantic relationships.
In the beginning, couples embrace the new adventures and thrills their relationships bring. As they get to know each other, become comfortable with each other, and settle into a steady kind of love, their adventurous nature falls into sleep mode, giving up challenge and discovery in exchange for comfort and security.
Both partners invest less energy in the relationship as they develop predictable rituals and routines.
This process, referred to as “habituation” in psychology, often leads partners to feel taken for granted, and is one of the main reasons it’s so difficult to maintain a healthy, happy relationship or marriage over the long run.
After you have been in a relationship for a while, everything is familiar, and there are no more surprises. Early on, it is romantic when a couple can complete each other’s sentences, but after a while, predictability becomes a huge negative in long-term relationships and marriages.
Too much predictability leads to indifference, and in time, apathy turns to annoyance, exasperation, and irritation. The security that was once a protective castle now becomes a prison as a couple finds they’ve become boring, and bored with each other.
While many couples don’t realize the extent to which their relationship problems arise from habituation, boredom is almost inevitable when any relationship lasts long enough.