8 Tips for Mind-Blowing Sex Standing Up, According to Experts
It’ll easily become your new favorite position.
In movies, people seem to take hold of each other in one swift motion and have incredible, effortless sex standing up. But it doesn’t always go this way in real life (no, it’s not just you). Maybe you struggle to find the right rhythm, or your legs feel awkward, or it simply doesn’t feel as good as other positions.
Don’t give up on this move just yet. “Sex standing up brings about a sense of adventure and excitement that boosts dopamine, lending to intense feelings of arousal,” says Madeline Castellanos, author of Wanting to Want: What Kills Your Sex Life and How to Keep It Alive.
Face-to-face standing sex is also great for boosting intimacy, adds Moushumi Ghose, MFT, author of Classic Sex Positions Reinvented: Your Favorite Sex Positions – 100 Wild and Erotic Ways. “In fact, this position may actually get started because a couple starts out in a make-out session, then decides to take it to the next level.”
Whether you’re getting it on in the kitchen, the shower, or out in public, “the position has all the makings for steamy, hot, passionate, and lusty sex,” Ghose says, although there are some things to consider before giving it a try. Here’s exactly how to have sex standing up.
1. Use props to leverage your body weight.
Some traditional sex positions are a little more intuitive, like missionary or doggy style. Sex standing up, however, can be more challenging to pull off. “Standing-up sex is great for daring and adventurous lovers, but the one thing that is missing from many of these upright positions is the aspect of stability, which comes from a bed or flat surface,” Ghose says.