How To Make A Woman (Or Yourself) Have Seriously Intense Orgasms
Talk to any woman who’s experienced intense orgasms while having sex or masturbating, and she’ll tell you the female orgasm (of any kind) is a wonderful experience.
And while the “orgasm gap” is real — a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that while 95 percent of heterosexual men claim to usually or always experience an orgasm when having sex, only 65 percent of heterosexual women can say the same — the good news is that there are ways partners can learn how to pleasure a woman — and that women can learn how to orgasm — in order to make sex an even more powerful experience for you both.
But, first, let’s be clear that putting too much emphasis on the end result of things only takes away from the pleasure of the process for both of you.
The truth is that some women cannot experience an orgasm no matter what they or their sexual partners do.
If you are one of those women, or if you are in a relationship with of those women, don’t drive yourself crazy! You can absolutely enjoy an exciting, hot sex life without orgasms.
The happy paradox is that if you surrender to this mindset, you just might have one — or you might not. And either will be just fine.
Having said that, many women have an endless resource of untapped orgasmic potential within themselves, and there are things they and their partners can do in order to deepen that part of their sexual experience.
If you want to know how to make a woman (or yourself!) have intense orgasms, here are 10 things you can do — starting now — for more pleasure in the bedroom.
Note: The following suggestions are directed toward women experimenting with their own pleasure, but partners can follow along and read between the lines to learn how they can pitch in.
1. Ask for what you want.
Be generous and do your best to meet your partner’s needs but, at the same time, remember that your needs are just as important as his.
2. Get to know your body.
Specifically, learn all about what your vulva, vagina and the surrounding areas look and feel like. Many men and women today still don’t know much about their own bodies.
Use a mirror for a better perspective of what your clitoris looks like, and read up on your G-spot to learn how to locate and stimulate that highly sensitive area.
3. Give pelvic floor muscle exercises a try.
Kegel exercises can help increase a woman’s sensation during sex, due to the strengthening of nerves and improvement of blood flow to the genitals.
4. Experiment with relaxation techniques.
Work on letting go of tension. Deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation exercises can be very helpful.
5. Masturbate (alone or together).
Take your time touching your body and noticing the sensations. Give yourself permission to fantasize while trying out different techniques for arousing yourself while staying relaxed.