I Cheated and I Don’t Regret It
“Cheating did not lead me to the love of my life, but it did lead me to look at my life and find happiness in myself.”
There’s no denying that cheating on someone can cause a lot of pain. Most of the time, it’s better to be up-front about how you’re feeling before making a move that could hurt someone you care a lot about. But there’s also no denying that sometimes even people with the best of intentions get carried away. In some cases, a moment of infidelity can even change your whole outlook on love and life. Here, 14 women recount why they cheated and why it was the right decision for them at the time.
1. “I was in a long-term relationship with the worst human I have ever met; he cheated on me several times. I stayed with him because every ounce of confidence I once had was gone. I wanted to break up with him but felt as though he was the best I could get, and I didn’t deserve any better. Then, a friend of mine started showing interest in me. We went out for a few drinks and ended up sleeping together. If it wasn’t for this guy reminding me what it felt like to be wanted and appreciated, and showing me that I did deserve better, I never would have built up the courage to leave the man I was with. My friend and I never started dating, but we’re still good friends to this day.” —Kasi, 23
2. “My boyfriend and I were long-distance. I started feeling like I didn’t need him in my life anymore and I was happy without him. Then my ex came into town. I was out at a bar and drunkenly asked my ex to pick me up. I stayed over and we had sex. I woke up at, like, 4:00 am in complete shock and disgust with myself. I walked out of his apartment, clothes in hand and nothing but his shirt on. I wandered through the apartment complex waiting for my Uber and I felt that my life had never been so in shambles. Since that night, I have been so grateful for my boyfriend, and have a deeper understanding and appreciation for him. If I never cheated on him, I don’t think our relationship would have survived. It opened my eyes to how much I loved him.” —Jennifer, 21
3. “Cheating made me realize how much my boyfriend at the time didn’t care; he really just wanted to be with his friends more than me. I would tell him I would be hanging out with these guys at all hours of the night and all he would say was something like, ‘Have fun.’ He never would care if I was hanging out with him or someone else. It got to the point where I went to Canada overnight with a guy — and I told him about it before it happened — and he didn’t even question it or anything. This is when I knew I needed a change. Soon after, I met my current fiancé and broke up with my then-boyfriend. I don’t regret anything.” —Ally, 22