Meet the Men Who Get Off on Their Wives Having Sex With Other People
Cuckolding is form of consensual non-monogamy, and these guys are into it.
Having sex with other people while in a committed relationship isn’t necessarily cheating—especially for those who are into consensual non-monogamy (CNM). In fact, the prospect of watching or hearing about their partner’s sexual escapades is such a turn-on for some people, they actively encourage their lover to share as many unfamiliar beds as they want.
CNM is practiced in all sorts of forms, such as polyamory (having multiple romantic partners) and swinging (swapping sexual partners with other couples). Cuckolding is a form of CNM where one partner (the cuckold) agrees their lover can have sex with other people—often known as “bulls.” There are variations in how cuckolding plays out for different couples—some cuckolds enjoy being verbally and sexually humiliated—but cuckolds are generally involved with watching their partner have sex. Other times, they get message/photo updates throughout the encounter, and get told in detail about it afterwards.
Anyone can practice all forms of cuckolding, regardless of their gender identity or sexuality. Nonetheless, there seems to be a high proportion of straight men who are interested in it.
Here, three straight men discuss how they got into cuckolding, what they like about it and how it’s actually benefited their relationships.
“It allows me to watch the best possible porn ever”, says Ben*, a computer systems administrator.
“For most of our marriage, my wife has been free to sleep with other men. When she does, she’s always told me about the experiences. We got into polyamory because my wife was having problems staying monogamous. She didn’t understand why it was wrong to love more than one person. We have been doing what is usually called cuckolding for 15 years.