Sex Acts You’ve Always Been Curious About, Defined
Especially with the rise of social media, new terms are coined all the time, including in the arena of sexuality. For instance, “cuck” has become an insult hurled by the right-wing trolls, but it’s related to “cuckolding,” which can (and should) be a hot and consensual sexual activity that all parties enjoy. If you’re not quite sure of what that word means (or you’re unclear on the definitions of “felching,” “docking,” or “pearl necklace,” for that matter), read on. (And if you’re wondering if a given sex act is really a thing, keep in mind the wise words of sex educator Jimanekia Eborn: “Everything is a thing, is basically what I have learned working in sex education,” she says. In other words, if you can dream it, you can do it — or at least, someone else has probably tried to). Here are 11 sex terms you probably didn’t learn in sex ed, explained.
To felch is to suck up semen out of an orifice (using a straw is optional). For instance, someone may ejaculate inside their partner’s anus and then suck their own semen out of the anus with their mouth; they then may or may not swallow. (Keep in mind that exchanging fluids in this way is associated with the risk of STIs, including HIV.)
Bukkake is both a sex act and popular genre of porn in which multiple men, typically three or more, ejaculate all over a woman.
3. Pearl Necklace
Ready for another sperm-centric definition? As Samantha explained to Charlotte on a memorable episode of Sex and the City, a pearl necklace is what results when someone ejaculates on or around their partner’s neck or chest (yes, so that the semen is roughly where a pearl necklace is when worn). If you’re not someone who enjoys wearing this kind of pearl necklace, feel free to stick to Charlotte’s preferred version, which you can find at Bloomingdale’s.
“Docking is when two uncircumcised [people with penises] get together,” Eborn explains. “[The first] pulls his foreskin back and holds it while [the second] stretches [theirs] open and outward as far as possible over the head and shaft of [the first partner’s] penis.” She says she is frequently asked if this act is real and possible, and her response is that with enough imagination and determination, most things are. (That said, remember that comfort and safety should take priority in all sexual encounters, no matter how creative.)
Scissoring, also called tribadism or tribbing, is most often thought of as the territory of same-sex, female-identified couples. It’s usually considered to be two partners rubbing their vulvas against each other’s, but can also be defined as one partner rubbing their vulva against other body parts of their partner’s (including the thighs and butt), as Autostraddle pointed out. In “classic” scissor position, partners’ legs intersect so that they look like — you guessed it — scissors. Porn (especially made for the male gaze) has probably hyped up scissoring as a more popular act among women who have sex with women than it actually is in real life, but plenty of people love it.
Squirting is when a person with a vagina ejaculates fluid during sex. Eborn says she is frequently asked if squirting is a myth, and she’s only too happy to share that it is not, nor is it “just peeing.” Research suggests that the fluid involved comes partly from Skene’s glands, also known as the “female prostate” — but as with many subjects that don’t focus on a penis, more research is required. Not everyone squirts, and among those who do, some squirt from clitoral stimulation and some squirt from G-spot stimulation (that is, stimulation of the sensitive front wall of the vagina).
Pegging refers to when a woman penetrates a man anally with a strap-on dildo. It’s worth pointing out that some people dislike the term “pegging” and stress that it’s just a form of sex, but either way, it’s a completely healthy (and super fun) part of many people’s sex lives.