The 5 Best Anal Sex Positions for Women
Expert-suggested options for anal amateurs and more experienced couples.
Used to be that enjoying anal sex was taboo for women. If a couple did give anal a test drive, it was seen as a once-in-a-while experience—something a woman indulged in for her partner’s sake, not because she actually enjoyed it.
Lately, however, it seems that this script has been flipped. An increasing number of hetero couples are adding anal sex to their playbook. Slowly, anal is entering the mainstream. And though it’s not for everyone, more women are speaking out about the pleasure it brings them.
“Historically, there was a pervasive narrative that anal sex is something women do for their partners…but that myth is slowly getting erased,” Alicia Sinclair, sex educator and CEO of online erotic boutique b-Vibe, tells Health. “Because of all the nerves and potential pleasure points inside and around the anus, anal play can be very pleasurable.”
Whether it’s your first time trying anal sex or you’ve experienced it before and are looking for some new ways to enjoy backdoor play, check out these expert-recommended positions. Each makes anal sex comfortable, fun, and intimate.
(A little advice first: Enjoying anal means giving your body time to warm up and relax, plus using lots of lubricant. Skipping these steps can cause discomfort or pain. And if you don’t know your partner’s STI status, use a condom, no exceptions.)
Backside doggy style
When you think of anal sex, you probably think of the doggy style position. It’s not hard to understand why, Julia Margo, co-founder of UK-based sex toy company Hot Octopus, tells Health. “It offers easy entry, control to the partner being penetrated, and a pleasurable angle of penetration,” she says.
Start by positioning yourself on all fours, and have your partner kneel behind you, hands on your hips. Once you’re ready for penetration, have your partner place the tip of his penis at the point of entry. From here, you can shift your hips back and forward to control the depth and rhythm. “The deeper your partner goes, the more likely they’ll be able to hit your A-spot, which is a highly sensitive and pleasurable area.” In fact, stimulating this pleasure-point could result in an anal orgasm.
To make sure you’re getting the most out of this position, Sinclair recommends angling your body in different ways. “Start off on all fours and see how that feels, then lower your chest all the way to the bed to see if you like that better,” she suggests.
Penis-in-vagina cowgirl gives you the reins, and the same goes for the anal sex version of this woman-on-top position. With your partner reclining face-up, straddle your knees on either side of him. Then, slowly lower your booty onto his penis, and adjust to the snug, full feeling. Once you’re comfortable, begin grinding, rocking, and rolling your hips until you find a rhythm you enjoy.
As you move, having your partner touch your clit or hold a vibrator against it, Mackenzie Riel, relationship and sex expert with sex-toy company Too Timid, tells Health. “Just like with vaginal cowgirl, this position will stimulate your G-spot,” she advises. “Add in some clitoris stimulation for a wild trio of pleasure.”