The Best Sex Positions for Bigger Guys
You’ll want to try these amazing moves tonight.
If you’re a bigger guy, certain sexual positions may be more challenging for you—but don’t fear, because you can have comfortable and hot sex no matter your size, or your partner’s.
Before we get to those positions, though, let’s talk about body image, which affects men as well as women.
Dylan Thomas, co-host of podcast Life on the Swingset, said in an interview that one of the most prevalent issues for bigger guys is penis perception. Yes, worrying about penis size can impact your sex life right off the bat, before you’re even in the bedroom.
“Men who focus on their own size can get hung up on some of the extra fat surrounding their penis since it makes it look smaller or like it won’t reach an area sufficiently,” said Thomas. He also observed that if a guy’s stomach is in the way of him seeing his penis pre-insertion, he might be less sure of himself.
The result? This tension can get in a guy’s head, and result in, according to Thomas, “a lack of desire for a variety of positions, or a desire for sticking to what already works, especially for penetrative sex. These feelings can also affect confidence, which can affect the ability to get a fuller erection.”
This was echoed by ACS-certified sex educator Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, who said, “Men fear ridicule and judgment too. That pre-occupation can sometime lead to an inability to perform in the way they would like or a tendency to avoid sex altogether.”
Confidence and a willingness to experiment with different experiments and tools can go a long way in the bedroom.
The Best Sex Positions for Large Men
Both Thomas and Chase suggested doggy style as an excellent sex position for men of size, especially because, according to Thomas, it doesn’t require as full an erection and can provide easier and deeper penetration. He recommends having the receiving partner brace themselves against a headboard or other solid item. This “makes it easier for the receiving partner to push back and for the penetrating partner to push with more force, resulting in easier insertion and offering more time for a stronger erection.”
Additionally, you can get a better view—because who doesn’t like to watch sometimes?—by kneeling with one leg up, or using pillows or sex furniture to raise or lower the receiver so your heights match up.
For those who love missionary position sex, Thomas recommends making small changes so this popular way of getting it on is even more pleasurable. The missionary position can be modified by moving your partner’s legs onto your shoulders, holding them up in a V, having them put one leg on your shoulder and wrapping the other around you, or having them wrap their arms and legs in a brace position, which can make the position easier for both of you.