The Best Sex Positions for Women Who Love Spooning
We’re in the frigid depths of winter right now, and that means it’s prime spooning season—the time of year when you and your partner can linger under soft, warm covers and enjoy all the amazing sensations this hands-free, super intimate sex style offers. Spooning “is one of the easiest positions to get into, and probably the most comfortable and natural,” says Sadie Allison, PhD, author of Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets for Better Bucking.
If you love nothing more than the closeness and orgasmic pleasure a spooning session brings but are getting a little bored with bumping and grinding on your sides, try one of these six expert-approved variations. You’ll feel just as close to your partner, there are no pretzel-like contortions involved, and you’ll definitely break a sweat—on even the coldest of days.
This chest-to-chest pose puts your breasts front and center and also encourages feelings of safety, connection, and nurturing, says California-based intimacy expert and educator Miyoko Rifkin. Have your partner start in a cross-legged position, then sit on top of them with your arms and legs wrapped around their torso and over their shoulders. Have your partner enter you and take charge of the thrusting. “By having your partner support you entirely, it gives you this feeling of weightlessness and relaxation,” she explains. “It’s a perfect position for reconnection.”
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When traditional spooning feels too same-old, a tiny tweak can make a huge pleasure difference. While your partner is in the big spoon position, throw your upper leg back over their legs. “That will change the angle of penetration and make room for more rubbing and grinding with hands and toys,” says Toronto-based Jess O’Reilly, PhD, Astroglide’s resident sexologist. Plus, your leg will sort of enclose theirs, cutting down on their range of motion so their thrusts become shorter and faster.
It doesn’t get much more intimate than this oral-sex variation, which mixes the insane pleasure of standard 69 with the closeness of spooning. Just lie on your sides comfortably and put your faces between your legs, instructs O’Reilly. then tease each other with your lips, mouths, and tongues. Take turns bringing each other to orgasm…or orgasm in sync, so you both finish together.