The Scary Way Stress Destroys Your Relationship
Stress can kill us — any doctor will agree. It wears us down, can destroy our sleep patterns, make us look older, and even cause us to gain weight. It’s no surprise what the effects of stress on your intimate life can do.
“About 80 percent of my clinical caseload involves people who are over-stressed and anxious, and it can have a devastating effect on one’s sex life,” says John McGrail, Ph.D., a clinical hypnotherapist, self-improvement expert, and personal/relationship coach.
“Stress is a physiological and emotional response to a threat. It is biologically meant to be a short-term condition to get us out of a threatening or dangerous situation. In modern society, it has become chronic and endemic and it does have a devastating effect on both the mind and body over the long-term because the chemicals of stress — adrenaline and cortisol — are very corrosive, so it can cause all kinds of physical and emotional issues,” says McGrail.
The irony is that if you can get yourself in the mood, sex actually REDUCES stress.
“Sex actually helps reduce stress due to the secretion of endorphins. It also is good for the heart, immunity and both testosterone and estrogen levels,” McGrail says.
So how can stress be, in essence, destroying your sex life? There are both physical and emotional responses that our bodies produce when we endure stress, whether there’s an immediate threat or not. When these effects sink in, it tends to kill the mood rather than spark an evening of lust and love.
Relationships are influenced by stress in many ways. Either one person is experiencing some form of stress, or there are tensions within the relationship as a whole. No matter the case, each person within the relationship is affected in some way. Factors such as anxiety and exhaustion can take a serious toll on both partners.
Want to know the effects of stress on your intimate life? Learn about what may be stressing you out so you can avoid problems in your relationship.