The Ultimate Guide To Sex Toys For Curious Beginners
You gotta start somewhere … May as well have (a lot of) fun!
You might not think learning how to masturbate was a thing that needs doing. But if we’re all being honest here, the best masturbation tips for women typically suggest using sex toys — and buying your own vibrator or dildo isn’t exactly a topic most of us are born educated consumers about.
Personally, I’ll never forget the first time I bought a sex toy for myself. I was 19 years old and living in a dorm suite with 5 other women.
If this sounds like the beginning of a “Dear Penthouse” letter, I have to disillusion you.
They were all seniors, and I, a lowly sophomore. They were all hip, with it, having sex, talking about sex, and asking other people about sex. And this was almost more than I could handle because, believe it or not, I haven’t always been an out and proud sex writer with a wealth of knowledge about the best sex toys and techniques for women to have intense orgasms like I’m about to share with you.
No, no. I was once a virginal teen with equally virginal teen friends who mostly just giggled whenever anyone even said the word “penis.”
Verily, these were dark times.
Luckily, my senior suite mates were open, kind, and super sex-positive.
When they found out that I had never used a sex toy before, they immediately bought me a vibrator that was exactly my speed. That meant mobility, clitoral stimulation, and zero penetration.
I can trot out these words with a flip of the hair now, but as a novice, I had absolutely no clue.
Of course, I wasn’t able to tell them everything I thought I needed in my first sex toy. They just knew me, knew my lack of experience, knew what works best on most cis-female bodies, and took it from there.
Thankfully we landed on something that just happened to work for me, but that’s not the case for most women.
While some are lucky enough to have someone guide them through their first adventure with sex toys, others, like me, and maybe even like you, have had to wander in the dark, panic-stricken and hoping to eventually feel something.
And although I was lucky to have good friends introduce me to the joyous world of sex toys and masturbation, it wasn’t until I learned how to buy sex toys for myself that I developed a vocabulary for expressing my own sexual desires and preferences.