What It’s Really Like To Be An Escort
Crossing that line from stripping to escorting is not a decision to take lightly.
At the surface level, many people — including strippers themselves — consider stripping superior to escorting because like web-cam modeling and phone sex, it’s both legal and doesn’t involve “full service,” penetrative sex. Porn, on the other hand, is legal due only to the fact there’s a camera present but most adult actors and actresses moonlight as escorts, unless they’re at a very high tier of success in that industry.
As an escort by way of strip club hostessing, bartending, and then stripping, I can safely say I feel like the escorting profession is classier for a number of reasons. I tried to use frustrating Sugar Dating sites as a “middle ground” where I wouldn’t have to advertise as an escort and risk being “outed” but those sites were minimally fruitful and more aggravation than they were worth.
Whether or not you’re aware of how to be an escort or a stripper, and whether or not you’re part of the lifestyle, here are just a few reasons escorting is much classier than stripping.
Charging $350+ for an hourly minimum as an escort is a huge spam filter for trashy clients you have to filter through at the strip club (with tedious conversations over loud music, and time-wasters). You still get cheapeskates, hagglers and time-wasters as an escort but the higher your rates are, the fewer people will bother trying to negotiate with you.
In certain parts of the country, $350 is high-end, while in areas like NYC, minimum rates of $1,000 are par for the course. Most escorts fall somewhere in the middle. I started at $400 hour, quickly giving myself a raise to $450 and ultimately $500, where I have remained, because I moved to a part of the country where rates are generally lower than where I started.
2. Drug culture
As an escort, I’m not surrounded by illegal drugs, people drinking like alcoholics, cigarette smoke, and dry humping 20+ guys a night without a shower in between (not to mention the sweaty crotch from stage sets under club lights). With escorting (at a low volume/high hourly minimum rate), I’m always clean and fresh, and shower after every appointment before leaving.
My clients are 90 percent white collar and gentleman, unlike lots of strip club guys. They tend to be in their forties and fifties, with successful careers. They are people an escort would date, or even marry, in real life if the client were unmarried and the escort herself was open to dating older men.
As an internet escort, your marketing helps you reach a desirable, classy demographic (my clients are classy, but not insanely rich flying me around the world). Hiding behind the internet protects against stalkers, sexual assault, and you screen clients to avoid bad apples, ensuring that every appointment you take is a pleasant experience.
Not every appointment goes perfectly but the worst experiences I’ve had do not involve rape, beating, or a client’s refusal to practice safe sex. Lack of chemistry with the client, or the client terminating the appointment, is about as bad as it gets. I’ve never been turned away for supposedly not looking like my photos or for having a face the client didn’t like (but I do blur my face in my escort photos to protect my “real-life” identity).
Although I’m not the type of escort jet-setting in Louboutins with 2K handbags, I wear classy outfits to classy hotels for my appointments, not fishnets/clear heels. I am well-educated and discreet enough not to draw attention in hotel lobbies or out at steakhouses, etc. with clients.
There are strippers who aren’t terribly adept at having eloquent, appropriate conversations in public or dressing appropriately. And there are certain strippers and escorts a client would be concerned about bringing in public. As an escort, I’ve been to several upscale restaurants and had clients who were highly-educated intellectuals or driven career people. Overall, escorting outfits are classier and more versatile than stripping outfits.
I remember a time during my early stripping days where I owned scarcely an outfit outside of my stripping ensembles. I would arrive to work in cheap, gray-washed yoga pants and head to the “magic transformation room” (AKA dressing room) to doll up. Unlike stripping apparel, escorting apparel is a sound, more versatile investment, so you can build a nice wardrobe for use outside of the profession.