When Should You End a Boring Relationship?
An expert weighs in on how you can fix things—and when it’s time to cut ties.
If you’re feeling a bit over your relationship these days, you’re not alone. We see relationships presented as these exciting, perfect things. When you find the right person, you’re supposed to be all set and ready to be committed and in love in the same way forever and ever.
But that’s just not the way it is in real life, is it? If you’re feeling restless, aloof and perhaps a little out of touch with your partner, these are signs you might be getting bored in your relationship.
Here’s what to do if you’re bored in your relationship. Remember, if you want to save your relationship, it’s going to take work. If you don’t want to put in the work, maybe it’s time to walk away.
Fixing a boring relationship could be as easy as spicing things up.
Dr. Kristie Overstreet, a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist, says that spicing things up can be as easy as changing up your routine.
“You probably are in a routine and not allowing time to enjoy your relationship. Don’t get stuck in a rigid routine that breeds monotony,” she says. “Try having a date day versus date lunch. Take a day off or a weekend day where you stay off your devices and have fun at home. Plan a vacation or weekend getaway, just the act of talking about it and brainstorming plans will bring new excitement.”
If you’re still bored with your partner, see if doing more active activities helps get things back on track.
“Being outside and doing an activity together will increase many forms of intimacy. You will improve your communication intimacy by talking during the experience,” Overstreet says. “You will improve your recreational intimacy because you are doing something fun together. You will also experience a flood of endorphins which will help both of you feel physically better.
“Oftentimes, this leads to an improvement in physical intimacy as well,” she adds—in other words, better sex.